At birth we’re presented with Life. It is thrown in our face so to speak. We cannot tell it’s size, length or qualities – no one can. We just fall into it and depending on the coaching we get from parents, siblings, teachers and so on we battle or freewheel through it until one day we notice Life is not just simply there. It comes packed with choices.

Life comes packed with choices

Chances are that when you’re reading this, you already found out. Perhaps you also noticed that half or even all of the choices you ever had were already decided on by others than you. If that feels good, it is fine. If it doesn’t, that’s fine too, but you might rather choose for yourself, right?

It took me a long time to discover how many choices were actually not my choice. … Oops, that was an incorrect statement, I was just lying to myself. In truth, they were the result of my choice to not make choices for myself. Many times I just followed directions or automated patterns set by others. Or worse, I cheated on myself pretending that it was not my choice if I let things just happen. False security by blaming others when things get “bad”.

Choosing Life A Day at A Time

No, life doesn’t become much easier when you start making choises all on your own. But at least you begin to feel it is YOUR life and not someone else’s. And then, you see, it is allright to ask for some advice and help – without giving away the ownership of your life to other people. Now, when things turn out wonderfully, you know YOU made it happen. And guess what, if someday life hurts a bit, you know you can change that too.

If choosing your way through Life seems too big a task, just start with one day at a time. And by the way, just in case you haven’t noticed yet, Life also just happens to come to you One Day at A Time. Actually, it comes to you Moment by Moment giving you ample playground to make your choices and to renew or change them as you go.

Only you can make the best of your day. And if you do you might be amazed to see that it gets better than you could imagine.

I decided to make 2012 a year of change. For me and anyone I touch in life.

Many people seem to fear change. How’s that with you? Is it a threat to you? What always amazes me is to see that only a few are aware that change is normal to life. Even if you pretend that everything stays the same for you, it just is not true. Your biology is in constant change and flow as it would die otherwise. The people around you change because of their life experiences and so do you. Nature is shifting, the continents are floating around the surface of earth. New thoughts are born in your mind every instant.

Why choose change?

But, if change is natural and one can let go of fear, that does not mean you have to choose change. Or is there a good reason for change? There are two ways of handling change.

First – one can just let go of resistance to change if and when it occurs. And it does occur, whether you are aware of it or not. When you are aware of change and do not resist it, you are able to move with it and often steer your way around.

Second – one can make an active choice for change. In other words, take life in one’s own hands. A person who is deciding what has to change and how the change will occur, will probably feel the uncertainty that is attached to change, like anyone else.  There may even be a little fear – but not a loss of control that so many experience while being overwhelmed by unforseen changes. Setting the course before the wind turns might help you to be prepared to reach your goals.

How does it work?

Choosing change asks for being aware of where you stand, observing how you feel about your life and how you have handled life’s opportunities and challenges.

And indeed, it requires having a purpose and a goal. Again for many people these words sound like a challenge. They need not be. You are the one that decides whether it is a grand far away purpose or a goal for tomorrow.

If there’s anything in your life that is not like what you want it to be, your first decision could be to change it. Or you could decide to stay with it, but change your inner attitude.  In both cases, if you want to take small steps, begin to become aware of what IS. Just observe what is so. You will notice how in many instances small changes will automatically occur, just because you are becoming aware of what is happening. As you adapt to being conscious of what is happening in your life you will also find that you know what you can do to make small changes that make things move in a different direction. You do not need a big plan from the beginning.

So this is what I decided for 2012. Starting out in a new direction. Being more aware of where I am and what I want to share with “the world”.

For 2012 I wish you get what you want from life! Make it a great and prosperous year, for a change.

Some issues cannot be solved directly

Our society is strongly focussed at the power of our minds and indeed the mind is important, but it does not always guide us to the best or easiest solution. Some issues of life need to be solved at a different level than the one they exist at. An example: often it is difficult to find a new job once you lost your current one.  Still, “find a job” is what your mind – and most people around you – will tell you to do.  After a while it looks like you’ve tried everything, and nothing worked out well. Watch closely in your life and that of the people around you and you will see that it is very human to repeat the same patterns over and over again. Very often finding a different approach to challenges will bring you closer to achieving your goals.

What Self Improvement Can Mean to You

Self improvement starts with looking at you issues all right. But immediately after having defined your problem in life, you begin to look at what is behind it. Most people find it hard to look at themselves, because they think it is about judging oneself. It isn’t. It is just looking for what is helpful or not when we try to achieve a goal. Every human is conditioned, behaving in a manner that is determined by upbringing, education, society. This means that we have acquired specific ways to tackle the issues that we encounter in life. Well, sometimes these ways simply do not work for us even if they seem to work for others. Discovering and implementing new ways to cope with problems in life, will improve your experience of life. By looking at the issues of life in a new way you can start doing things a bit different too. That is what Self Improvement can do.

First steps in solving the issues of your life

1. Define for yourself what your issue really is. Avoid creating a story about it – stick to the basics. Whenever you talk about you issues with others, make a habit of it to stick to what it really is – not all the fears or doubts. These will only bring you further down instead of towards a solution.
2. In the same basic way find the first reasons or backgrounds for the issue. Look at something within yourself, a feeling, a fear, a grudge, a doubt. For almost all issues of life it is true that these backgrounds are exactly the startingpoints that will help you make changes.
3. Look for what you want to have after your issue is solved. This may even change your view of what the apparent main issue in your life actually is. Check if the reason or origin of the issue that you discovered in step two is still valid. If it is not, look instead for your main other obstacle towards what you want to have.
4. Having done this preliminary work, it is best to find a good friend, family member or professional to discuss your points with: aim at getting clarity about the first 3 points first. Ask them to listen to you and give feedback. Tell them beforehand, that you are not asking for their solution, but for help finding your own answer.
5. When you feel that you are clear about the above, you will see that the problem will already have a little less weight. You have created room to get past it, even if it is still difficult. It is important to take small steps from now on. Even if your issue is huge, it is better to take small, but carefully picked steps than huge strides that are not on target.

Summary of how to improve solving the issues of your life

The path outlined above is a framework that has proven useful for many people. A lot can be added to each of the steps. I will devote upcoming posts to discussing them in more detail. But this should not keep you from exploring the potential of this method right now. I would love to hear your comments. And if you need it, I’m available for help.

Do you know that unfulfilled feeling at the end of your day? You’ve been working and busy. But did you accomplish what you actually wanted to do? It may have been that talk to your friend or boss. The freedom you need to flourish in your job or relationship.

Today, for me, it is a different story. The picture to the left shows what I wanted. Yes, today I launched my new eBook, that I wanted to create for a long time!

The story behind it is that I had to go through all the steps and levels first to understand what it really is that I love to do and then how to get there. I can tell you, I did not do it the easy way. I will spare you all details, but maybe I’ll share someday in another post. It just shows that by taking the right steps you can realize more than you believe. You CAN live the Life You Want.

What I found was that it can be simple to find out what you want to change and achieve in your life and then how to start taking decisive steps towards it. It is relatively simple, but maybe not so easy. And THAT is the reason I wanted to reach out and create material that HELPS. That is just practical and not filled with thousands of inspiring words that keep you busy but perhaps do not trigger you into action.

Trust WHAT? Being able to trust oneself is one of the things every human craves for, down inside. Strangely, we seldom recognize the fact and call it by other names. We need support, we need approval, we look up at a guru, we follow the Rules and live by The Book. Why? Very often just because we feel insecure, unsafe. We look at an authority outside of ourselves. What’s worse: sometimes we even delegate responsibility and then blame our revered Guru when they are falling from their throne. But, who put them there in the first place? “Them”…or us?

I’m certainly not pointing at anyone and judging guilty. We have simply been trained for lifetimes to do what we’re told, consciously and unconsciously. It has served humanity to grow and develop as it has. But now the world is being turned upside down – almost literally so,  some scientists claim that the magnetic poles will soon switch places  as if nature responds to our consciousness. Probably, you too feel that the old patterns no longer work and that transparency is needed, so that we can regain trust in the outer world.

To trust others you need do trust yourself first

But, But really, trusting yourself first is the only way to live your life with confidence. ? So, what about transparency towards yourself and reclaiming trust in yourself? It is not an easy process. But really, trusting yourself first is the only way to live your life with confidence.

Self-trust does not imply that you have to know everything and be perfect, never looking for help. On the contrary, it means understanding where and when you need others, but without making them responsible for you choices. It implies “living dangerously”, understanding that uncertainty is part of the concept of life. Minimize your risks but go for it!

The failure and guilt that we fear are human inventions to keep us within limits, social limits. We’ll only feel these until we stop believing that our selfworth is dependent on the judgement of other people.

I am the last to say that it is easy to free oneself form the concept of  “what will they think of me”. The exact reason I wanted to bring it up is that I’ve been there myself and it still sticks to me a bit. Somehow we were programmed to mis-trust ourselves. The good news is that our brain is very programmable indeed. And you can be the programmer!

The four main points to re-program trust into your mind:

1. Stop the non-supportive chatter of your mind Start becoming aware of negative, obstructing thoughts like “I’m inadequate” or “I never get this right”. Notice that each time you notice this negative stream you are breaking the chain. Just oberve. It is not necessary— even counterproductive — to try and stop the thinking. Just by observing your awareness will grow and the negative mindchatter will ebb away. Each time you break the chain you can insert a thought or action that serves you and in time that will be the new flow you are in. You will automatically prove that most of the negative chatter was just fear and not true at all. Then you are on the way to trust yourself.
2. Let go of judging yourself, or anyone This is along the lines of stopping the chatter, but one step further. Just observe what happens when you are judging yourself for what we tend to call failing or not living up to your own expectations. If judging means checking what is effective and what not, then it is fine, because ite means you heve reflected on a situation and learned from it. But if  you judge yourself you are making yourself wrong. And a bad person can do no good and give up as well…. You know this is not true: you can simply start over. The same is judging another person, you make them wrong, you are the victim and can give up as well. This also is not true: there’s always another road.  We do things, learn from them, do new things and so on. Your perfection is in the fact that you can grow from your experiences. Can something that moves you forward really be so bad? Accepting what happens makes it easier to learn from it and learning grows your confidence and trust in your abilities.
3. Make decisions instead of plans Postponing decisions and not making choices stems for listening to the mindchatter and fear of doing the wrong thing. The frightening thing is, that delaying action will only increase your fears. What we call doubt is in essence the fear of taking the wrong turn in our life. Our mind wants to protect us from dangers and anything unknown is regarded a danger by the mind. But is it? Haven’t you been pleasantly surprised many times in your life? An unexpected friendship or just that beautiful rainbow in the grey sky? Unfortunately we have bought into the belief that decisions are forever. Actually, they aren’t. You can decide differently anytime you want. Just don’t decide based on fear ever.  Decide based on what you feel that is right, based on what you did learn. If you do decide and things happen to turn out other than expected, you’ll have no reason to judge yourself. You just make a new decision. Practising this will give you the experience that most things will work out or can be corrected along the way.
4. Take responsibility All too often people tend to sit back and wait to see what is going to happen. They wonder why their dreams do not manifest, or maybe don’t even dare to have a dream. When life seems to turn on them they will then blame the situation or hold other people in their lives responsible for all mishap. Taking responsibility for your own life, your thoughts and actions means that you do not blame your environment nor yourself for your experiences. You are aware that you don’t have everything in your own hand, but that you have made decisions as best as you could at a certain point. The result is, that you really have no reason at all to blame anyone when events turn out other than expected, and more importantly you can claim any success as truly yours!

It is just normal to feel some anxiety in the face of the unknown or unexpected. And when you come from self-trust it is much easier to handle the fears that originate in your brain. You will be able to take them as just warning signs that can help make well founded decisions. When you are trusting yourself you know that you can go to other people for their opinion or help, but that you are ultimately responsible for what you do. You are aware that you cannot take the world on your shoulders or be more perfect than you already are.  Reprogramming the mind by being aware of the four points offered above should prove a great tool for trusting yourself.

Trust certainly has more aspects than covered in this post. I’d like to incorporate your comments and suggestions in an upcoming post.

You, dear reader, don’t need any guru-talk. For a moment doubt sneaked in. Do my posts really add value for my readers? This is when I suddenly thought of a great blog about trusting yourself I had seen the other day. I’ll share an excerpt below as it taught me this:

Trusting yourself is of great value. Not only to yourself, but also to those around you.

Why? Because it means daring to be who you are. Trust in yourself empowers you to follow your heart and share who you are without the fear of making mistakes. It will free one from being hooked on the opinion of others. However, trusting yourself has nothing to do with being right or wrong.

Once you are trusting yourself, you stop loosing energy trying to please other people – or your ego – and start being present

Here’s the post that  I think will inspire you too.  It is story in a story as it tells how the author himself was being inspired by a speakers self-trust and authenticity.

“How to Teach Yourself to Trust Yourself”
by Peter Bregman (Excerpt)

I went to an evening to honor and advance the vision of the late Dr. Allan Rosenfield, Dean of Columbia’s Mailman School of Public Health for twenty two years. There was a long slate of estimable speakers but as the evening wore on I began to lose attention. Then Jerry Hoosen Coovadia, a Professor at the University of KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa, stepped up to the lectern.

He looked at the audience, and, without fanfare, put aside his speech. “Most of what I planned to say has already been said,” he told us.

Then, instead of reading his prepared remarks, he spent a few minutes talking, off the cuff, about Allan’s uncommon ability to “see in the dark” — to see injustices that the rest of us overlooked — and take action.

Of the many speeches that night, his talk, unscripted, simple, heartfelt, is the one that affected me the most.  The evening didn’t need another eloquent, grandiose speech about the state of global health. Jerry let go of all his hard preparation in favor of what he saw was best in the moment. His ability to notice the need, pause, and spin on a dime was remarkable. It showed flexibility, presence, and focus. But there’s something deeper: it showed his trust in himself.

Recenty I shared how I over-worked, over-thought and over-prepared a recent TEDx speech on learning.

Each time I created a new version, I sent it out to trusted friends — smart, generous, insightful people — and asked for their advice and direction. Yet each time they came back with their valuable, thoughtful feedback, I became a little more lost. A little less sure of my message. My ideas. Myself.

It’s not that I had a hard time hearing criticism. It’s the opposite: I was too quick to incorporate it. Too eager to please. Too willing to change in order to get the right response.

Many of us have spent our lives listening to our parents, our teachers, our managers, and our leaders. Choosing what we are told to choose. Being told gently who we are. Molding ourselves to the feedback of others. Seeking approval. Reaching for recognition.

There is good reason to learn from the wisdom of others. But there is also a cost: as we shape ourselves to the desires, preferences, and expectations of others, we risk losing ourselves. We can become frozen without their direction, unable to make our own choices, lacking trust in our own insights. There is a simple remedy to the insecurity of being ourselves: stop asking.

Instead, take the time, and the quiet, to decide what you think. That is how we find the part of ourselves we gave up. That is how we become powerful, clever, creative, and insightful. That is how we gain our sight.

After I ran out of time, I finally did what Jerry did: I put the speech aside and made very personal choices about what I wanted to share.

It seems obvious to me now, but how could I have hoped to find my unique perspective by asking others? Instead, I looked into the dark for what others had overlooked.

This trusting of yourself is not just about writing a speech. It’s about speaking in meetings. It’s about choosing projects to pursue. It’s about advocating for budgets. It’s about having the courage to do work that moves you. Can you trust yourself enough to follow your own impulses?

Once I decided to stop asking others what they thought about what I thought, I noticed something interesting: I try harder when I’m not relying on others. I fix things I might otherwise leave for others to fix. I work more diligently to ensure my perspective holds together.

And when I finally gave my speech in Flint, MI, it felt clear, focused, and authentic.

It felt mine.

To enjoy the full post in Peter Bregman’s blog please go here!

I’d love to learn about your own experiences with trust or distrusting yourself. Feel invited to share this post and leave comments in the box below.

Has it ever occurred to you how you choices influence your life? By choice I do not mean some illusionary magic trick that instantly manifests your wildest dreams. I mean the conscious choice to follow your hearts desire that will provide for the power and courage to move forward.

Mostly our protective mind prevents us from reaching our target, because we do not dare make a clear choice. Our minds decisions become half-hearted and unclear. We actually make a choice that says “I’ll try” and that will be what shows up in our life. I know what happens next from personal experience.  It is time to change that self-sabotage and turn it around.

This video ‘The Power of Choice’ by Jan Brouwer contains sincere guidelines – coming from true experience, not theory – to bring about change in our way of handling our lives.

I’d love to get your feedback that will help other readers move forward.

On many occasions in our life we find that our confidence in the decisions we made is challenged by what appears as reality. We did plan our life, our business or relationship to flow in a certain direction and did base our decisions on that vision. Suddenly obstacles arise and life seems to take a different turn. At that point we only have two choices.

The first choice is to surrender to circumstances and give up our dreams. We might be left with a feeling that we have failed and maybe even lose courage to ever try again.

The second choice is a different kind of surrender. It is total acceptance of the unexpected turn of events, this time trusting yourself and your choices unconditionally.  This attitude will keep you going in your chosen direction even if the path is totally different from what you could imagine.

The video below tells a personal story about trusting yourself that I found very inspiring.

I’d love to see your personal sharings on this topic of trusting yourself. Did you experience the same struggles or successes?

Not trusting yourself will block your way to enjoying life to the fullest

Really trusting yourself means having silenced the voice of self-doubt. Self-doubt is a pattern that might override even the best reasoned actions you want to take. I call it a pattern, because it always originates from the past – often times a distant and forgotten past – and keeps turning up in your life. Everytime you give in to this pattern it is reinforced. Its origins can be manifold, from non-supportive parents, oppressive environment, social patterns and beliefsystems to experiences that you yourself have labeled as “bad lessons”. Self-doubt can simply mean you feel that you will be unable to accomplish your goal or it can be linked to low self-worth. In essence a lack of self-trust is connected to self-judgement.

Do you recognize these examples of not trusting yourself?

It used to happen to me regularly. During the day I had a confrontation with someone I cared for or I spoke up during a management meeting. Or I took steps towards a career change that would allow me to follow my life passion. All  seemed fine as long as the day was rolling on. Then it happened. Lying awake at night wondering why I did say this or that, how I could dare do such or such – getting fearful of the outcome. You know how one can keep turning things around in one’s thoughts. Fear by itself is not a sign for lack of trust – it is a natural response of the mind to change or uncertainty. One can have great fear and still know that one will cope with whatever comes up. Self-doubt – lack of self-trust -  is where fear freezes our thoughts and actions. We seem unable to reason it away.

Trusting Yourself does begin in the Heart not in the Mind

Lack of trust can be hard to overcome. Often there is an ingrained pattern from past experiences, where other people did not trust you – or where you had deep trust in someone, where that trust was broken, as a result of which you lost trust in yourself when you could or could not trust other people. Trust in this case needs a lot of letting go, releasing of old emotions accepting that past as the past. Trust means understanding that history does not have to repeat itself. Our mind however is thriving on patterns, it is built to recognize them, it is programmed to keep you in the comfort of any pattern you did fall into. The mind wil produce emotions to keep you “safe”.

The Heart however operates on a different level. It is where deep desires originate, where creativity and intuition come from. It is not without reason that we sometimes say that we “feel” something is right or wrong, better or worse. Feelings are not emotions. Feelings are expressions of our true Self. When you are experiencing self-doubt it is of no use to try and argue with your mind.

Learning to trust yourself again

The approach I suggest is to accept the doubt and fear for the moment. Acknowledge that you have them. When you stop reasoning the mind will become silent. Then you can start to connect to that which made you indulge in the plan or situation that is now being questioned by your mind. Get into the feeling deep down that made you endeavour it in the first place.

This “originating” feeling is magically connected to the feeling that you will have once you achieve your goal. It sparks this knowing of  “This is what I want”. Putting yourself in the place where you already are where you want to be will allow you to look back as it where. Doing this exercise will also show you if your intention came form the heart or the mind in the first place. When you feel at peace in this future spot it is the heart that is leading you, when your mind is racing, creating images of pros and cons it might well have been the mind that pushed you and it would be wise to revisit your steps and plans. But the latter is for another post.

Once you are connected to your feeling and know where you want to go you will either already have found the strenght to go on or you might work on appeasing your mind.  A proven exercise is to note where you really doubt yourself and do not want to continue. Then find out what the doubt is based on and check if it is reasonable. If it is not, find out the beliefs you have about this and let them go or replace them one by one.

Trusting Yourself is an important attribute – it empowers you as it is connecting you to your true self, freeing you from the fear of judgement by others or youself. As stated before – it certainly does not mean that you’ll never need to seek advice or learn from others, on the contrary: trusting yourself means allowing your own judgment and that what is called intuition. With trust you are open to critique of others and avoid going forward on a path that you know is not the best choice.

Please offer us your comments and experiences with trusting yourself! We welcome any in the commentbox below!

There has been a lot of talk about the Secret and the Law of Attraction that was “revealed” in it. And even more talk and publications on how easy it is to attract everything we wish.  Unfortunately, most of the time it is based on a fundamental misrepresentation or – hopefully– misunderstanding of what this law implies.

The Law of Attraction is a law of Nature not some Magic Tool

First of all it is important to understand that this so called law is a law of nature. This means, that it just describes how Life works. It is not something you can apply or not. You and everything around you is always subject to this mechanism of interaction and response. Very simply put: you attract what you are focussing on. An example: observe how small kids on their bicycles try NOT bumping into the lamppost that unexpectedly crosses their path? Guess what happens. Probably you still remember your own big bump-on-the-head! I’m simplifying, but it illustrates how we can think that our focus is in some place, where actually our focus it is elsewhere. Another example: for most people it is true to state that even when they solemly swear they want to be rich, their subconscious cries out that it does not want to be a “bad rich person”. Ask most people who want to be rich and almost all do not really believe they can. A majority alse secretly despises the super-wealthy of this world without ever having talked to them. Both attitudes will frustrate what these people believe they want it want.

All Thoughts Attract Response

What is the consequence of beliefs that are contrary to what we want to attract? Here’s what you have to understand: the part of you that is expressing its intention to become rich not only calls in energies to support that intention, it will also trigger a response in all parts of you. Those parts that make you feel inspired, but also those that function to protect you from hurt and change in general. An energy goes out and other energies respond – in other words you attract ALL these things, supportive and obstructive.

At this point many experts on the Law of Attraction bring in the concept of Affirmation or other methods of anchoring positive thoughts and feelings in your mind. The goal is to ban the thoughts and feelings that could frustrate the process of attracting what we want. I do not deny that such methods can be powerful, but most of us will end up using these methods mechanically without really feeling positive. My suggested approach is three-fold.
First, do not just jump a the biggest thing your mind tells you that you want, but turn it around several times in your heart until you are clear on what is really worth attracting in your life.
Second, explore as much as you can the old patterns and beliefs that can become obstacles on the way to get what you may want. Find out how these have served you in the past and why you do or do not need them anymore. This way you will dissolve obstacles instead of trying too break them down with sheer mind-power.
Third, focus on what you really want to attract and let go of all concepts of how it will come into your life or even what it will actually look like. Open yourself for everything that might help bring your desire in your life. Be active and aware.
A final note to this all: in the end what you want is not really a “thing”, a “substance”, but a certain experience or feeling.

If I do all this, is it possible to Attract Money in My Life?

The rumors about the Law of Attraction claim that you can materialize stuff into your life, so why not money?
Let us look at the kid and the lamppost first. Did the kid place the lamppost right there in its path? I would say yes and no. The potentials of what the kid could experience are myriad. When we limit ourselves to the setting, still a million things can happen with the kid trying out its new bicycle. Does the kid plan to bump into the lamppost? Not exactly, but in its conscious and unconscious mind a lot is going on: I don’t want to bump, I don’t want to fall, I can’t steer away and even: what happens if I just continue in this direction? An important factor is whether the kid has learnt to trust in its own capabilities and simply knows that he or she can steer around the obstacle. If that is the case, suddenly all things flow together, muscles, mind and matter. The outcome is not really predictable, but all kids do not always hit the poor lamppost, right? Instead they learn to trust and focus on that what is helpfull.

Now for the riches or the beautiful wealthy partner that you want to create in your life. Can you really attract them? I absolutely believe so, but can you be so clear, focussed and trusting that you will? Let me review: in order to bring something into your life you need (1) the clarity (2) the right mindset and (3) focus and trust.  It is important to understand that from the very start of your life you have already been busy sending out a lot of messages to the universe and attracting response. If you are willing to accept that you did create the “lack” of that what you now wish to “attract”, then you do understand the way this Law of Attraction works and that your present situation is no accident. The three-fold process in the previous paragraph will help you to define and most of all understand and feel what you really want. It opens you up to the idea that it may not be Money or that the Perfect Partner will be different that your previous vision.

Aligning to the Law of Attraction

Now that you understand the fundamentals of this mysterious law, you can really begin to “make use of it”. That is, making changes to you way of thinking, your old beliefs about yourself and others and first and foremost explore what it really is that you want to bring into your life. Knowing that you attract or create everything in your life, it might be helpful to appreciate even the smallest specs of light in your life. This will reenforce your intention, better even than affirmations, because it is solid evidence – and your mind likes that.

If this article has been helpful and you want to add or comment, please do so as it may help other readers of this blog too!